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Dealing with failure


Dealing with failure Vince Stanzione, author of The New York Times bestselling book The Millionaire Dropout, Fire Your Boss, Do What You Love and Reclaim Your Life shares his top tips on dealing with failure:

YOU are in charge of your life - everything thatís happened to you in the pastóyour successes, failures, and problemsówere brought about by your actions (or lack of them) in one way or another. Itís easy for us to blame other people for our failures, problems, and shortcomings. How many times do you hear people say: "Itís my bossís fault . . . my wifeís fault . . . if only I was older/younger . . . I blame the government . . . Ē? Once you understand that you are in charge, then you can make changes to improve your life.

Get out of your comfort zone - Most people stay in their comfort zones in life, because it feels normal, and theyíre scared of failure, embarrassment, and change. The majority of people accept a life that isnít great, and deep down believe that dreams, goals, and desires will only cause pain. They have lost all hopes of being a billionaireóthey just want to earn a living and get by.

Stay Positive - Just as the negative messages in your head held you back, the positive messages will push you forward. A positive mental attitude is the key to unlocking success, energy, goodness, creativity, and power. Dwelling on past failures, negative experiences, problems, and shortcomings now has no place in your new life. You will no longer carry this unwanted, useless, heavy baggage around with you. We have all experienced failures in our life. No one is immune to making mistakes or wrong decisions. However, failures can be managed, and the negative effects can be reduced. In fact, most failures turn into the best lesson you could ever hope to receive, if you view them the right way.Take Thomas Edison. While trying to build the light bulb, he was interviewed by a young reporter. The reporter asked, "Mr. Edison, how does it feel to have failed 10,000 times?Ē Astonished and perplexed, Edison replied, "I have not failed 10,000 times. I have successfully found 10,000 ways that will not work and I am 10,000 times closer to finding a formula that will work.Ē So take note. Failure is all about perception.

Learn from your mistakes - If you go for a job interview and the outcome isnít successful, this doesnít mean you have failed. You have successfully proven that you and the job werenít right for each other, so you can move on to the next one. Failure is about learning. Mistakes are fine, as long as you learn from them and donít keep making them over and over.

Donít give up - Letís not kid ourselves. You will fail at one time or another. Iíve failed. Everyoneís failed. When you see a famous and successful person, you see her success. What you probably wonít see is all the failures behind that success.  One of the smartest self-made businesswomen in this century and last has to be Madonna. You may not like her style, music, or films, but you must respect her perseverance and success. She doesnít ever give up. She makes a film, it flops, she starts again.

Did you know that Colonel Sanders, the Kentucky Fried Chicken inventor, was flat broke and 66 years old when he first tried to sell his chicken recipe? He was turned down by over 2,000 restaurants, before finally getting his recipe accepted. Now there is a KFC on every main street.

The past is history - Past failures, including traumatic relationships and public embarrassment, seem to be the biggest factor stopping people moving on and getting ahead. I donít want to sound uncaring, and I understand people suffer from very painful divorces, loss of loved ones and business failure. However,
what has already happened is history. See hope and happiness in the brighter things head. Many people dwell on ifs and whys, but wallowing and torturing yourself over the past has no positive effect. Channel your energies and focus on the future, because you can do something about tomorrow, but you canít do anything yesterday.

Instead of running towards our dreams, we are often running away from
a fear of failure or a fear of criticism.
óEric Wright

Believe in yourself - Regardless of your past failures or current difficulties, you can and must believe in yourself. If you donít believe in yourself, you will never be able to convince anyone else to believe in you.

Taken from The New York Times bestselling book The Millionaire Dropout, Fire Your Boss, Do What You Love and Reclaim your life by Vince Stanzione. Available at bookstores, Amazon, in print, Kindle and audio formats.